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Ric,
You are right! I have carefully read your reply, and I must admit
that you are on to something. Whoops!l Another mistake on my part.
Rather,I must admit you are on something.
Pedantry is your lesser vocation.
Change your address to: http://www.sanctimony.com
YOur readers can then link to: http://www.unctuous.net or
http:/www.ingratiating.org or
most aptly: http://www.verbalflatulence.com or the ultimate:
http://www.pontificating.bus
Here's wincing at you.
Stu
--- In realtraders@xxxx, ric ingram <ringram@xxxx> wrote:
> Hi "sunsetisles2001",
>
> On Date: Wed, 06 Feb 2002 16:55:08 -0000 you wrote:
>
> From: "sunsetisles2001" <sunsetisles@xxxx>
> Subject: Re: Confidence is (nearly) all
>
> Please change your web site to: http://www.pedantryrus.com/
>
> Thank you for your amusing and inventive comment.
>
> Someone could grab that bit of cyber-space territory.
>
> I would like to meet your expectations of me.
>
> So to be pedantic, "sunsetisles2001", your isles seen to have the
sun set
> on them last year.
>
> One of the assumptions you appear to be making is that because you
do not
> value my email that all others feel the same.
>
> If I have helped one person, my efforts are worthwhile. What are
you
> giving back to the trading community?
>
> You also appear to assume that I believe I can reach everyone. I
cannot
> reach everyone, or more accurately I believe I cannot reach
> everyone. See how I do try to meet your expectations of pedantry.
>
> Nor can you reach everyone with any posting you make.
>
> None of us can.
>
> As usual, it seems most of the positive responses are sent
privately, and
> almost all the negative reactions are sent publicly.
>
> Does this give you a hint as to a possible purpose of those that
publish
> wholly negative emotional reactions in the forum?
>
> If my message had no merit for you, and no relevance for you, it
would be
> ignored - and correctly so. The delete key that others have
wisely spoken of.
>
> If the message had value for you, you would digest and optionally
write
> privately.
>
> If there was an area of confusion or disagreement etcetera, you
would ask
> privately or in public, specifying your query or disagreement or
suggestion
> or correction.
>
> If the message hit a sore spot and caused emotional pain, to some
degree,
> however small or large, then you might hit back emotionally, in
public, to
> the forum.
>
> So unfortunately for your apparent denial of your denial, the whole
group
> now knows which of the above categories you appear to fall within.
>
> Hope this is a wake-up call for you.
>
> I have no illusions of being able to help more than a subset of the
forums
> members. As I said in my original email, twenty years ago if
someone
> gave me the ideas about confidence, it would have been wasted on
> me. Perhaps even ten years ago I would have reacted emotionally
to the
> confidence ideas and been in denial of the source of the reaction.
>
> As always we have to give permission to be upset. While some see
no
> purpose, some find use in the message for their current situation,
some see
> it as obvious and assume others do too. Some will take it
personally and
> others will be upset in a non-specific manner.
>
> All these responses/reactions are more a function of the reader and
his/her
> developmental stage than what is actually written or indeed how it
is written.
>
> Reactions are as much or more about us - as they are about that
which we
> react to.
>
> From my personal experience and those of my coaching clients, to
trade
> successfully, most, if not all traders seem to need to understand
this
> truth of human behaviour and get past it. Otherwise we will
always be
> victims of our reactions to external events.
>
> Successful traders are exploiters of external events, not victims.
>
> May you be an exploiter not a victim.
>
> Paradoxically, exploiters seem to be mostly providers of service
and
> victims are most often seekers of service in the market.
>
> Now you know one of the purposes of my emails - to open up
perceptions to
> help spur you on your own individual path to trading success.
And every
> path is different, and yet has many common features.
>
> I am truly sorry that your perceptions seem to be mostly closed at
this
> time. This is obviously right for you at this time and I respect
> this. They will open when you are ready.
>
> Accept that others are at different stages of their perceptions
being
> opened and at different stages on their different paths.
>
> Your perceptions and stage is not others perceptions and stage.
>
> Unconditional regards, Ric.
> www.traderscalm.com
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