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Ric,
pls try to resist the urge and stop that
overflow.
It'll be very much appreciated.
Regards,
Jan Philipp
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ric
ingram
To: <A title=realtraders@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
href="mailto:realtraders@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx";>realtraders@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Sent: Thursday, February 07, 2002 3:02
PM
Subject: [RT] Pedantry for you
and...
Hi "sunsetisles2001",On Date: Wed, 06 Feb
2002 16:55:08 -0000 you wrote:From: "sunsetisles2001" <<A
href="mailto:sunsetisles@xxxxxxxxxxxxxx";>sunsetisles@xxxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Subject: Re: Confidence is (nearly) allPlease change your web site
to: <FONT
color=#0000ff
size=3>http://www.pedantryrus.com/Thank
you for your amusing and inventive comment.Someone could grab that bit
of cyber-space territory.I would like to meet your expectations of
me.So to be pedantic, "sunsetisles2001", your isles seen to have the
sun set on them last year.One of the assumptions you appear to be
making is that because you do not value my email that all others feel the
same.If I have helped one person, my efforts are
worthwhile. What are you giving back to the trading
community?You also appear to assume that I believe I can reach
everyone. I cannot reach everyone, or more accurately I
believe I cannot reach everyone. See how I do try to meet
your expectations of pedantry.Nor can you reach everyone with any
posting you make.None of us can.As usual, it seems most of the
positive responses are sent privately, and almost all the negative reactions
are sent publicly.Does this give you a hint as to a possible purpose
of those that publish wholly negative emotional reactions in the
forum?If my message had no merit for you, and no relevance for you, it
would be ignored - and correctly so. The delete key that others
have wisely spoken of.If the message had value for you, you would
digest and optionally write privately.If there was an area of
confusion or disagreement etcetera, you would ask privately or in public,
specifying your query or disagreement or suggestion or correction.If
the message hit a sore spot and caused emotional pain, to some degree, however
small or large, then you might hit back emotionally, in public, to the
forum.So unfortunately for your apparent denial of your denial, the
whole group now knows which of the above categories you appear to fall
within.Hope this is a wake-up call for you.I have no illusions
of being able to help more than a subset of the forums
members. As I said in my original email, twenty years ago if
someone gave me the ideas about confidence, it would have been wasted on
me. Perhaps even ten years ago I would have reacted emotionally to
the confidence ideas and been in denial of the source of the
reaction.As always we have to give permission to be upset.
While some see no purpose, some find use in the message for their current
situation, some see it as obvious and assume others do too.
Some will take it personally and others will be upset in a non-specific
manner. All these responses/reactions are more a
function of the reader and his/her developmental stage than what is actually
written or indeed how it is written.Reactions are as much or more
about us - as they are about that which we react to.From my personal
experience and those of my coaching clients, to trade successfully, most, if
not all traders seem to need to understand this truth of human behaviour and
get past it. Otherwise we will always be victims of our reactions
to external events.Successful traders are exploiters of external
events, not victims.May you be an exploiter not a
victim.Paradoxically, exploiters seem to be mostly providers of
service and victims are most often seekers of service in the
market.Now you know one of the purposes of my emails - to open up
perceptions to help spur you on your own individual path to trading
success. And every path is different, and yet has many
common features. I am truly sorry that your perceptions seem to be
mostly closed at this time. This is obviously right for you
at this time and I respect this. They will open when you are
ready.Accept that others are at different stages of their perceptions
being opened and at different stages on their different paths.Your
perceptions and stage is not others perceptions and
stage.Unconditional regards, Ric.<A
href="http://www.traderscalm.com/"; eudora="autourl">www.traderscalm.com
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