|
PureBytes Links
Trading Reference Links
|
Hi "sunsetisles2001",
On Date: Wed, 06 Feb 2002 16:55:08 -0000 you wrote:
From: "sunsetisles2001" <sunsetisles@xxxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Subject: Re: Confidence is (nearly) all
Please change your web site to:
http://www.pedantryrus.com/
Thank you for your amusing and inventive
comment.
Someone could grab that bit of cyber-space territory.
I would like to meet your expectations of me.
So to be pedantic, "sunsetisles2001", your isles seen to have
the sun set on them last year.
One of the assumptions you appear to be making is that because you do not
value my email that all others feel the same.
If I have helped one person, my efforts are worthwhile.
What are you giving back to the trading community?
You also appear to assume that I believe I can reach
everyone. I cannot reach everyone, or more accurately I
believe I cannot reach everyone. See how I do try to
meet your expectations of pedantry.
Nor can you reach everyone with any posting you make.
None of us can.
As usual, it seems most of the positive responses are sent privately, and
almost all the negative reactions are sent publicly.
Does this give you a hint as to a possible purpose of those that publish
wholly negative emotional reactions in the forum?
If my message had no merit for you, and no relevance for you, it would be
ignored - and correctly so. The delete key that others have
wisely spoken of.
If the message had value for you, you would digest and optionally write
privately.
If there was an area of confusion or disagreement etcetera, you would ask
privately or in public, specifying your query or disagreement or
suggestion or correction.
If the message hit a sore spot and caused emotional pain, to some degree,
however small or large, then you might hit back emotionally, in public,
to the forum.
So unfortunately for your apparent denial of your denial, the whole group
now knows which of the above categories you appear to fall
within.
Hope this is a wake-up call for you.
I have no illusions of being able to help more than a subset of the
forums members. As I said in my original email, twenty
years ago if someone gave me the ideas about confidence, it would have
been wasted on me. Perhaps even ten years ago I would have
reacted emotionally to the confidence ideas and been in denial of the
source of the reaction.
As always we have to give permission to be upset. While some
see no purpose, some find use in the message for their current situation,
some see it as obvious and assume others do too. Some
will take it personally and others will be upset in a non-specific
manner.
All these responses/reactions are more a function of the reader and
his/her developmental stage than what is actually written or indeed how
it is written.
Reactions are as much or more about us - as they are about that which we
react to.
From my personal experience and those of my coaching clients, to trade
successfully, most, if not all traders seem to need to understand this
truth of human behaviour and get past it. Otherwise we will
always be victims of our reactions to external events.
Successful traders are exploiters of external events, not
victims.
May you be an exploiter not a victim.
Paradoxically, exploiters seem to be mostly providers of service and
victims are most often seekers of service in the market.
Now you know one of the purposes of my emails - to open up perceptions to
help spur you on your own individual path to trading
success. And every path is different, and yet has
many common features.
I am truly sorry that your perceptions seem to be mostly closed at this
time. This is obviously right for you at this time and
I respect this. They will open when you are ready.
Accept that others are at different stages of their perceptions being
opened and at different stages on their different paths.
Your perceptions and stage is not others perceptions and stage.
Unconditional regards, Ric.
www.traderscalm.com
To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to:
realtraders-unsubscribe@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to the Yahoo! Terms of Service.
|